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Preventing Student Suicide: Support and Resources for Students, Educators, and Peers


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How To Break The Silence Of Suicide

We all need to talk about suicide.

The judgement, the stigma and the silence need to change, and let's address a few ways we can do so.

After the amazing response from my article ‘Why Men Kill Themselves’ I thought this feature would make a good follow up, pushing on from the awareness it’s already raised.

With 650 shares, 94,338 people reached and an overwhelming amount of comments and messages, I’m so inspired to continue my journey to break the silence of suicide.

But how can you help?

Share Your Story

  • Have you ever suffered with deep depression, contemplating suicide?
  • Have you ever attempted to take your own life?
  • Have you been affected by someone close to you who died by suicide?

If you answer ‘yes’ to any of those questions, you can help by speaking out.

After I lost my Dad to suicide it took me 6 years to realize how my story could help others.

‘If I could share my story and help just one person’ I’d be happy’…

When I did the response I received was mind blowing, and people around me who I thought would judge started to message me their stories and how they were affected too by suicide and depression.

The more we can openly speak about our lived experience, the better.

Share your story and your opinions with your friends, your family, post them on social media or maybe you know someone who can give you a platform to reach a wider audience?

Even if you just tell one person today it could have an impact.

The more we talk about it, the more people will think about it, and the more people will do something about it.

It's Time to Talk About Male Suicide

Why Men Kill Themselves

Share The Facts (From the UK)

Factual information makes everybody listen more. Let's openly share the facts with others…

  • ‘Suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 45’ – Not road accidents, alcoholism or drugs…
  • ‘A man will take his own life every 2 hours in the UK’
  • ‘Over one million people die from suicide each year’ – A worldwide statistic.
  • ‘Global suicide rates have increased 60% in the past 45 years’ – This figure is increasing year on year.
  • ‘In the UK, 76% of all suicides were men’ – The rate for women is slowly decreasing, with the rate for men rising rapidly.
  • ‘Somewhere in the world, someone will die from suicide every 40 seconds’
  • “In 2017 sin the U.S., suicide was the second (of 10) leading cause of death among persons aged 10–34,, the fourth among persons aged 35-54 years, the eighth among persons aged 55–64 years, and the seventeenth among persons 65 years and older.”
  • Howeveer, in Oregon suicide is the leading (of 50) causes of death of 50 for those 15-54. No other state has four age categories that are number one. Source for Oregon | Source for Oregon Comparison

Surely these facts will get people talking?

Speak About It

Mental illness isn’t a character flaw. Suffering with depression doesn’t make you weak. Talking about it is one of the hardest, and strongest things anyone can do. The more we start to talk about depression, the more we talk about suicide, the easier it will become.

The reason people won’t talk and the reason people find it hard to open up is all down to the way we approach mental illness. We don’t know what questions to ask, we don’t know how to deal with it, we struggle to deal with our own emotions let alone believe we can help someone else.

Sometimes all it takes is a simple question, an interest into how someone is feeling. "R U OK?"

Many men find it harder to talk about feelings and emotions. We’d rather talk about the football last night or those girls at the bar. But support from a friend, a family member and a co-worker are at the forefront of suicide prevention. We need to talk about our own experiences alongside showing more interest in others to help them talk about theirs.

Educate From Above

  • What are government bodies doing to help break the stigma around mental health?
  • What are the health systems doing?
  • How are the police force, firefighters and doctors being educated to deal with mental health?
  • What do the media do to help educate others and break the stigma around mental health?
  • What training do corporate companies have in place to help employees deal with stress, anxiety and depression?
  • What are Universities doing? Schools? Educators doing to hellp their students exhibiting a warning sign?
  • What are Celebrities and influential figures doing to help?

The real impact comes from above, and we will start to see big changes if mental health got treated and dealt with as it is (an illness). All of the above have huge power to make change, and as things slowly shift I hope more action is taken.

Know It’s OK.

  • It’s ok to feel low…
  • It’s ok to be in a place so dark that suicide seems the only answer…
  • It’s ok.
  • It’s ok to talk about it, to open up, you can (like so many others) deal with what you might be going through and come through stronger.
  • You’re not weak and no one will think you are if you open up to them.
  • Seriously it’s ok.

The quicker we drop the stigma that suicide and depression is a weakness, the faster people will realise that depression is ok.

It’s a vicious cycle. We hit a deep depression and because of the stigma surrounding mental health we think we’re weak, we think we’re weird… these negative opinions of ourselves then have a damaging effect on our mind state pushing us closer to the edge of suicide.

What would happen if we knew we could overcome it? What would happen if we knew it was ok to speak about it like so many others have? Surely that vicious cycle would be broken?

Support Charities

There’s a lot of mental health charities doing what they can to spread awareness, so lend a helping hand and support them. From offering support to people contemplating suicide to running campaigns to help break the silence, the more support we can give them to more they can do. Donate money, volunteer, raise money doing something outside of your comfort zone. Whatever support you can give will help make change.

Here are a few in the UK:

Collaborate With Others

Let's come together and help break the silence together.

Without doubt every person who reads this article would have been affected by depression and suicide in some way. If you’re not, I’m sure you know someone who is. It’s extremely common, just look at the facts, so let’s get together and help break the stigma.

Team up with friends to raise money for a charity, share your story with others, collaborate with your work to try and help educate other co-workers on dealing with mental illness, show people how they can get help…

Do you know a news reporter? Someone with an influence on social media? Do you know a TV producer? A film maker?

The more we can collaborate, the better things will become.

I’m going to keep pushing my story and my message in the aim to help others, so why not collaborate with me and share this post.

Let's End The Silence

Enough’s enough. The facts are there for people to see, it’s time to make change. If you resonate with this article share it, and do what you can to help break the silence around mental health and suicide and don’t forget to reach out.

Breaking the Silence Around Suicide

The death of Robin Williams was instantly followed by an outpouring of sadness and shock.

From this week’s media coverage, it’s clear that the stigma and misconceptions surrounding suicide are still very widespread. While we at TCR frequently talk about this issue and serve families impacted by suicide, there is often a painful silence associated with this topic until it affects a famous figure and reaches the national news.

At The Children’s Room, children, teens, and adults who have experienced a death in their family find a caring and understanding place where they can share their stories and connect with others. Nearly 10% of the families we serve have lost someone due to suicide.

Over 47,000 Americans die by suicide each year. The stigma and silence around suicide, depression, and other forms of mental illness can keep us from reaching out to ask for help or to offer support to those who need it.

We’re grateful for the services Samaritans provides to our community, including the thoughts and resources they shared .

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental illness or thoughts of suicide, please reach out to Samaritans or other crisis resources that can help.

The Children’s Room offers a variety of programs that might be helpful to families who have had a child or spouse die by suicide; including peer support groups, parent educational series, individual consultations, and referrals to other grief resources in the area. You can contact The Children’s Room at or 781-641-4741.

Break the Silence: Share your story

The Curry County Suicide Awareness and Prevention Council appreciates your willingness to share your experience of suicide loss. We are interested in what the loss experience was like for you and how it has impacted you both personally and professionally. We are especially interested in what you found helpful or not helpful. Please limit your story to 500 words or less.

If you are writing about the of a loss of someone in Curry County, please disguise any details and identifying information that might allow for their recognition.

With your permission, we would like to potentially use your story on this web page .The decision to have your name on your story is up to you. Please let us know what your preference is.

The following questions are areas you might consider in writing about your experience. Please write what has most affected you, and what has been most and least helpful.Send you story to

  • What was your initial response to losing your neighbor/friend/colleague/client/celebrity/family member to death by suicide?
  • What was most helpful to you at the time of the suicide?
  • What was least helpful?
  • How did the experience impact you personally? How did the experience impact you professionally (professional identity and relationships with colleagues, etc.)?
  • What was most/least helpful to you in the weeks and months after the suicide?
  • What has been most/least helpful to you in your healing?
  • What would have been helpful to you at the time of the loss?
  • What have you learned from this experience?
  • What do you hope to offer others since you've experienced this loss?

Please send your story to

Preventing Student Suicide: Support and Resources for Students, Educators, and Peers

Suicide, depression, and mental illness are subjects that we are often uncomfortable discussing, or uncertain of how to address. As a result, these very serious public health issues are frequently stigmatized and overlooked. This silence creates barriers to resources and support for many in need of help. The following resource is part of an effort to break the silence by providing non-judgmental support for students dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts or feelings, as well as for concerned family members, friends, and colleagues. This resource includes:

See our Interview With Student Mental Health Expert, Lee Swain

Facts and Figures

Discussing suicide can be difficult because many people are afraid to “say the wrong thing.” Knowing some facts about suicide can help you approach this topic from an informed and non-judgmental place. While it certainly does not lessen the seriousness of suicide, being informed about current research and statistics can help de-stigmatize your thoughts and opinions on the topic so that you can be more knowledgeable and compassionate towards those struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts, whether that be yourself or someone close to you.

The most recent data on suicide from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that:

  • 48,344 people died of suicide in the U.S. in 2018. 844 in Oregon.
  • Suicide rates rose significantly across the U.S. between 1999 and 2017.
  • Rates went up by over 30% in half of states in that time.
  • 54% of people who died from suicide did not have a known mental health condition.

When specifically discussing student suicide, it’s important to remember that college and university students are a diverse population. Though you may picture a young person, roughly between 18–22 years of age, when you hear the phrase “college student,” there are many college students who do not fit that description. Non-traditional or adult students are among the fastest growing college demographics. Just as college students come in all ages, people of all ages and life stages experience depression and are vulnerable to suicide. College students of all ages may struggle with these mental health issues.

According to CDC data from 2017 [PDF]:

“Suicide is the second leading cause of death (0f 10) among persons aged 10–34,, the fourth among persons aged 35-54 years, the eighth among persons aged 55–64 years, and the seventeenth among persons 65 years and older.”

Howeveer, in Oregon suicide is the leading cause of death of 50 for those 15-54. No other state has four age categories that are number one. Source for Oregon Source for U.S. Comparison

It is also noteworthy that, according to the CDC [PDF] traditonal-aged, full-time college students were found less likely to commit or attempt suicide than other individuals in their age group (12–22 years). Similar percentages of 18–22 year olds had suicidal thoughts or made suicide plans, regardless of their full-time enrollment in college or not.

Also noteworthy, research shows that suicidal intent is most frequently temporary. Several studies show that individuals who have survived a suicide attempt at one time are highly likely to continue living after the suicide attempt. Research notes that between 87–96.5% of people who experienced suicidal ideation and attempted suicide went on to live without a subsequently fatal suicide attempt. This means that timely intervention is a critical part of saving lives.

If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts or self harm, call +8 (800) 273-8255 (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline) or text “SOS” to 741741 (Crisis Text Line). If you are experiencing an emergency or an immediate crisis, call 911 or your local emergency number.

Warning Signs, Risk Factors, and Protective Factors (AFSP)

Remain informed of the risk factors and warning signs of depression and suicidal thoughts or feelings. As you deal with your own struggles, or as you work to help a friend, relative, or student who may be in distress, it’s important to rid your mind of stereotypes about suicide, depression, and mental illness. Truly anyone can suffer, and when we reinforce the stereotype of a depressed, suicidal person looking and acting only one particular way, we are likely to miss critical warning signs, misunderstand mental illness, and even hurt the people we are seeking to help.

The CDC identifies 12 warning signs that may indicate suicidal thoughts or behavior:

  • Feeling like a burden
  • Being isolated
  • Increased anxiety
  • Feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
  • Increased substance use
  • Looking for a way to access lethal means
  • Increased anger or rage
  • Extreme mood swings
  • Expressing hopelessness
  • Sleeping too little or too much
  • Talking or posting about wanting to die
  • Making plans for suicide

Risk Factors for suicide include, according to the CDC:

  • Family history of suicide
  • Family history of child maltreatment
  • Previous suicide attempt(s)
  • History of mental disorders, particularly clinical depression
  • History of alcohol and substance abuse
  • Feelings of hopelessness
  • Impulsive or aggressive tendencies
  • Cultural and religious beliefs (e.g., belief that suicide is noble resolution of a personal dilemma)
  • Local epidemics of suicide
  • Isolation, a feeling of being cut off from other people
  • Barriers to accessing mental health treatment
  • Loss (relational, social, work, or financial)
  • Physical illness
  • Easy access to lethal methods
  • Unwillingness to seek help because of the stigma attached to mental health, substance abuse disorders, and suicidal thoughts

The CDC notes that risk factors may be different from causes. The specific reasons an individual attempts or commits suicide may not be the same as their risk factors. In addition to knowing risk factors, it can be helpful to know about protective factors, things that buffer individuals from suicidal thoughts or behaviors. Protective factors are, unfortunately, less researched and discussed than risk factors but they can be equally effective in efforts to prevent suicide.

Protective factors, according to the CDC, include:

  • Effective clinical care for mental, physical, and substance abuse disorders
  • Easy access to a variety of clinical interventions and support for help-seeking
  • Family and community support (connectedness)
  • Support from ongoing medical and mental health care relationships
  • Skills in problem solving, conflict resolution, and nonviolent ways of handling disputes
  • Cultural and religious beliefs that discourage suicide and support instincts for self-preservation

Diagnosis and Treatment

Whether or not you’ve been diagnosed or treated for depression, suicidal thoughts and behaviors, or other mental illnesses, your feelings, experiences, and symptoms are real and valid. As we’ve noted many victims of suicide suffered from previously unknown mental health conditions. Diagnosis is an important part of identifying any risk-factors as well as connecting with care providers who can offer supportive, informed, consensual treatment.

If you would like to see a mental health professional about diagnosis and treatment for depression or suicidal tendencies, you should consider speaking with a therapist. There are several different types of therapists, and they can help diagnose your mental illness with a variety of tools, including talk therapy, diagnostic tests, and other diagnostic methods.

The treatments for depression and suicidal thoughts and behaviors are varied. Below are a few types of treatment that might help you deal with depression and suicidal urges.

  • Psychotherapy
  • Medication
  • Electroconvulsive Therapy
  • Light Therapy
  • Addiction Treatment
  • Family Support and Education
  • Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction

To read more about treatment options, visit the Mayo Clinic and the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.

Support and Advocacy Groups

The following organizations are doing work to prevent suicide and provide support to those who struggle with mental illness and suicidal thoughts or feelings:

  • The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a national network of local crisis centers that provides free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Call 8 (800) 273-8255 for support.
  • #BeThe1To is a resource created by the Lifeline to share information about actions everyone can take to prevent suicide.
  • Vibrant Emotional Health, formerly the Mental Health Association of New York City, is a 50-year-old non-profit that works with people across the U.S. to help them achieve mental and emotional wellbeing.
  • The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) was founded in 1987 and is a voluntary health organization that gives those affected by suicide a nationwide community empowered by research, education and advocacy to take action against this leading cause of death.
  • The Jed Foundation (JED) is a non-profit that exists to protect emotional health and prevent suicide for teens and young adults in the U.S. They partner with high schools and colleges to strengthen mental health, substance abuse and suicide prevention programs and systems.
  • The Trevor Project is an organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) people under the age of 25.
  • The Veterans Crisis Line (VCL) is a free, available-to-anyone, confidential resource with responders that are specially trained and experienced in helping Veterans of all ages and circumstances. For support from the VCL, call 8 (800) 273-8255 and press one or text 838255.
    • • Crisis Text Line is a free 24/7 text support service that uses data and technology to create an effective suicide support system where every text received is viewed by another human. For support, text “SOS” to 741741 in the U.S.

      • Trans Lifeline is a national trans-led organization dedicated to improving the quality of trans lives by responding to critical needs with direct service, material support, advocacy, and education. For support, call 8 (877) 565-8860 in the U.S. or 1 (877) 330-6366 in Canada.

Actionable Steps You Can Take

Though statistics and resources can be very helpful, you may be asking yourself: “but what can I do?” Whether you are looking for support for yourself or someone you care about, here are a number of action steps that you can take to find or provide help.

If you are struggling with thoughts or feelings of suicide or self-harm, call 8 (800) 273-8255 (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline) or text “HOME” to 741741 (Crisis Text Line). If you are experiencing an emergency, call 911 or your local emergency number.

If you are looking to support someone you care about who is struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts, #BeThe1To offers these action steps that you can take to help your friend, family member, classmate, or acquaintance:

  • Ask the person you’re checking in with about their mental health. #BeThe1To suggests asking: “Are you thinking about suicide? How do you hurt? How can I help?” Don’t be afraid to ask. Studies show that asking at-risk individuals if they are suicidal does not increase suicides or suicidal thoughts. Research actually indicates the opposite: findings suggest that acknowledging and talking about suicide may in fact reduce rather than increase suicidal thoughts and behaviors.
  • Keep them safe: Research from Harvard shows that reducing a suicidal person’s access to highly lethal items or places is an important part of suicide prevention. This may be difficult, but asking if the person has a plan and removing the lethal means if possible is another way to keep someone safe.
  • Be there: It is important to listen carefully and learn what the person you’re supporting is thinking, feeling, and experiencing. Your presence in their life, even as they deal with depression, suicidal thoughts, and self harm, can make a difference.
  • Help them connect: Connect the person with resources that they need. Perhaps share the resources from this list or facilitate a connection with a trusted individual like a family member, friend, or mental health professional.

Stay Connected:

Continue supporting the person in a way that is comfortable and appropriate for you. Staying in touch with someone after a crisis can make an important difference.

Additionally, if you’re looking to address suicide from a broader perspective, perhaps on your campus, in your community, or even state- and nation-wide, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) offers these suggestions for different government agencies, groups, and individuals. Collective action can make our communities safer and more supportive for those struggling with mental illness, in turn preventing suicide and providing help for people in need.

Government agencies can:

  • Track the problem to describe trends, circumstances, and populations at greatest risk.
  • Develop, implement, and evaluate suicide prevention strategies.
  • Work with local, state, tribal, national, and other partners to provide guidance and distribute suicide prevention tools.

Communities can:

  • Identify and support people at risk of suicide.
  • Teach coping and problem-solving skills to help people manage challenges with relationships, jobs, health, or other concerns.
  • Promote safe and supportive environments. This includes safely storing medications and firearms to reduce access among people at risk.
  • Offer activities that bring people together so they feel connected and not alone.
  • Connect people who are at risk to effective and coordinated mental and physical healthcare.
  • Expand temporary assistance options for those struggling to make ends meet.
  • Prevent future risk of suicide among those who have lost a loved one to suicide.

Healthcare systems can:

  • Provide high quality, ongoing care focused on patient safety and suicide prevention.
  • Make sure affordable and effective mental and physical healthcare is available where people live.
  • Train providers in adopting proven treatments for patients at risk of suicide.

Employers can:

  • Promote employee health and well-being, support employees at risk, and have plans in place to respond to people showing warning signs.
  • Encourage employees to seek help, and provide referrals to mental health, substance abuse, legal, or financial counseling services as needed.

Student suicide is a critical but difficult-to-discuss topic. We encourage you to take action where appropriate. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation with someone you know, share the infographic on scripts to help communicate about suicide, or research suicide at your school or in your community. Most importantly, if you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, depression, or self harm, do whatever you can to get help. If you need to speak with someone immediately, call 8 (800) 273-8255 (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline) or text “SOS” to 741741 (Crisis Text Line). If you are experiencing an emergency, call 911 or go to an emergency room.